Pastoral Care
This part of the course explores the role of elders and the Elders' meeting in ensuring pastoral care takes place within the congregation and looks at ways in which this can be effective
9. Aspects of pastoral care
9.7. Some practical tips
Practical help for pastoral visitors
It is important to remember that a helpful visit and pastoral encounter does not depend on theological qualifications, or even being very articulate. Sometimes silence is truly what is needed. What matters is “being there” for the other person as a fellow seeker after truth and meaning.
When thinking about pastoral visiting you may find the following advice helpful:
- Politely ask “may I come in” and do not outstay your welcome.
- State clearly that the visits are on behalf of the church.
- Work out with the person how regular the visits will be (do not take on more than you or they can manage).
- Be prepared to receive from your host – even a cup of tea is a gift.
- If you say you will do something, make sure you do it.
- If somebody has a criticism of an individual or group encourage them to speak for themselves rather than through you.
- Phone calls, text messages, emails or a note through the door can be a substitute for a visit, but not all the time.
- When and if appropriate an elder can invite people to come to their home.
- For those who find the opening conversations difficult, taking the church flowers or magazine can offer a good start.